Last month, 21-year-old Indiana University student Chuanlin Xiao was murdered by her boyfriend, who then killed himself. As policy dug deeper into the relationship between the two, they found a history of control and abuse that Chuanlin tried to handle herself but was apparently hiding from her family and friends.
Sadly, that is the route that many young women in abusive relationships take. They’re too embarrassed to tell their friends and family. Yet they’re not necessarily equipped to recognize the warning signs early or to get help. And they desperately need to be. Women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence – almost triple the national average.
Moms and Dads – teach your daughters to recognize the warning signs of a potentially abusive boyfriend. This will not only help them if they’re in this situation, but also help them to help a friend when they spot these warning signs.
• He wants to know where you are at all times.
• He gets angry when you want to hang out with your family or friends.
• He constantly accuses you of cheating.
• He tells you how to dress.
• He demands access to your phone, Facebook, Twitter, and other social
media accounts so he can monitor your communications with others.
• He texts or calls you constantly and gets angry if you don’t answer immediately.
• He sends you negative, insulting, and threatening communications.
• He puts you down or talks badly about you.
• He pressures you to do things you don’t want to do, including sex.
Your daughters can learn all they need to know about staying safe and secure by reading the book Bulletproof: Safety, Security, and Self-Defense for the College-Bound Woman. It’s now available at Amazon.com. Click this link to purchase the book.